Harlan Coben

Harlan Coben

22 quotes

Harlan Coben (b. 1962), an American author, shaped not only their field but the way we think and talk about identity, creativity, and connection. The range of their thinking — from Family to Sports — speaks to an intellectual restlessness that shows in every quote. Discover 22 of Harlan Coben's most memorable quotes, ranging across Family, Sports, Hope, Fear, and War. Here is a taste of their wisdom: "Make no mistake, adolescence is a war. No one gets out unscathed."

“Losing my parents was the most crushing thing that ever happened to me. I lost my dad when I was 26, and it changed my life entirely.”

— Harlan Coben

Dad

All Quotes by Harlan Coben

“The readers are the ones who let us live our dreams. I try to write books which are really compelling - that you'd take on vacation and rather than going out, you'd read in your hotel room because you had to find out what happened. Hopefully that's what readers are responding to.”

— Harlan Coben

Dreams

“Hope can be the most wonderful thing in the world or it can crush your heart like an eggshell.”

— Harlan Coben

Hope

“When I was seventeen, I worked as a counsellor at a co-ed sleep-away camp for eight weeks. I loved it but it could be harrowing - it was far too much responsibility for someone my age.”

— Harlan Coben

Age

“Being a parent is not for the faint of heart. I may joke about knowing fear, but the fact is, the first time I ever knew real fear was the day Charlotte, my first child, was born. Suddenly there is someone in the world you care about more than anything.”

— Harlan Coben

Fear

“I try to stress to my children that buying something never leads to true happiness.”

— Harlan Coben

Happiness

“You can't have an up without a down, a right without a left, a back without a front - or a happy without a sad.”

— Harlan Coben

Sad

“Make no mistake, adolescence is a war. No one gets out unscathed.”

— Harlan Coben

War

“I don't necessarily love the sports per se, I love the stories behind them. Also in a kind of perverse way I like to study what it does to us, why we care so much. It's caring about something that's utterly meaningless.”

— Harlan Coben

Sports

“I'd never had money growing up, and it's never been that important to me, except maybe to take our kids on a nice vacation or something like that.”

— Harlan Coben

Money

“The state of New Jersey is really two places - terrible cities and wonderful suburbs. I live in the suburbs, the final battleground of the American dream, where people get married and have kids and try to scratch out a happy life for themselves. It's very romantic in that way, but a bit naive. I like to play with that in my work.”

— Harlan Coben

Romantic

“What I want to do is tell stories about normal people in the American suburbs. I don't write the book where it's a conspiracy reaching the prime minister I don't write the book with the big serial killer who lops off heads. My setting is a very placid pool of suburbia, family life. And within that I can make pretty big splashes.”

— Harlan Coben

Family

“If I'm not writing well, I'm not happy. If I'm not spending enough time with my family, I'm not happy. If I'm not connecting to friends or if I don't work out enough... You get the point. Everything has to be balanced. Nothing should be an extreme.”

— Harlan Coben

Family

“I can write pretty much anywhere if you give me time and some quiet. The home is not usually the best place because I have four children. It's usually pandemonium around here!”

— Harlan Coben

Home

“'Caught' is a novel of forgiveness, and the past and the present - who should be and who shouldn't be forgiven. None of my books are ever just about thrills, or it won't work.”

— Harlan Coben

Forgiveness

“I wrote seven Myron Bolitar novels in a row, and I never want to write a Myron book where he just solves a crime. Every one of them I want to be personal, and I want him to grow and change. The problem with that is, it makes the series limited, you can't write a series where a guy is always going through some kind of crisis.”

— Harlan Coben

Change

“I'm not a big sports fan.”

— Harlan Coben

Sports

“I always say three things make a writer: inspiration, obviously perspiration, doing the work. But the third is desperation. I'm not really fit for anything else, or to have a real job. That fear drives me. The pressure has always been self inflicted.”

— Harlan Coben

Fear

“Tragedy is a hell of a teacher. It's much too strict, but it's a hell of a teacher.”

— Harlan Coben

Teacher

“Losing my parents was the most crushing thing that ever happened to me. I lost my dad when I was 26, and it changed my life entirely.”

— Harlan Coben

Dad

“Frankly I'm fairly boring or fairly busy. Between writing and family, I have little time for anything else.”

— Harlan Coben

Family